How to Heal Your Anxious Attachment Style in Just 30 Days-and Finally Attract Emotionally Available Love
What if I told you that you could spend one month on healing your attachment style-and suddenly everything about dating and relationships would change?
No more situationships.
No more obsessing over text messages.
No more chasing emotionally unavailable men.
Just 30 days to start attracting emotionally available, intentional men who communicate clearly, show up fully, and actually want commitment.
As a preacher’s kid, I know what it’s like to be raised with a lot of pressure around “getting a man,” even if it means settling for something chaotic and confusing. But let’s be real-God is not the author of confusion. And your love life shouldn’t be either.
If you’ve ever spiraled after a guy didn’t text back…
If you’ve ever felt like dating is exhausting, anxiety-inducing, or straight-up hopeless…
If you’ve ever convinced yourself that love is just hard for you…
Let’s change that-starting now.
The 30-Day Plan to Heal Anxious Attachment
We’re breaking this down into four weeks. One focus per week. Let’s go:
Week One: Awareness & Accountability
You can’t heal what you don’t acknowledge.
The first step is simply noticing your patterns-without judgment. Journal every time you feel triggered. Are you over-giving, chasing, or overthinking? Are you pulling away the moment someone gets too close?
Personally, I kept a cheap notebook that fit in my purse and by my bedside. Every time I felt a pattern kick in, I wrote it down. It wasn’t fancy-but it was real. Don’t overthink it. Just observe.
If journaling isn’t your thing, try voice notes or video logs. The goal is to see yourself clearly and start understanding the root of your patterns.
Week Two: Regulate Your Nervous System
Now that you know your patterns, it’s time to calm your body.
Your anxious reactions aren’t just “in your head”-they’re physical. So give your body what it needs to feel safe.
Think:
- Pilates, yoga or long walks
- Breathwork and Somatic exercises
- Hypnosis or calming affirmations
- Self-love meditations (there are tons on YouTube)
Start incorporating these daily. The more you regulate your nervous system, the easier it is to stop reacting impulsively, and start responding with confidence.
Week Three: Rewrite Your Inner Narrative
This is the mindset shift that changes everything.
Scripture tells us to speak life. But too often, we speak lack:
“All the good men are taken.”
“Love is hard.”
“Men always leave.”
Those beliefs don’t serve you. Let’s replace them with truth:
“I don’t have to chase what’s meant for me.”
“I’m worthy of safe, consistent love.”
“Emotionally available love is my normal.”
Visualize what that relationship looks like, feels like, and sounds like. Imagine it in vivid detail, especially at night before bed. That’s how you begin to expect love-rather than fear it.
Week Four: Boundaries & Discernment
This is where we stop settling.
You can’t keep entertaining men who are inconsistent, confusing, or emotionally unavailable-and expect to receive the love you deserve.
Set your boundaries. And more importantly: enforce them.
Yes, people will push back. But once they realize you’re serious, the chaos will fade, and you’ll start attracting people who respect you and move with intention.
Remember: peace is not boring. Peace is what God intended. And when you learn to stop dating for the plot, you start living the purposeful love story God wrote for you.
Final Thoughts: You’re Not Broken-You’re Becoming
If love has always felt hard, I want you to know that you’re not broken. You’ve just been surviving.
And now? Now it’s time to thrive.
So here’s your invitation:
💥 Commit to these four weeks.
💥 Watch what changes.
💥 And if you want to go deeper?
I have a one-on-one coaching program designed to help you break the cycle for good. It’s called From Toxic to Thriving, and you can schedule a free call to learn more: https://calendly.com/keshiarice/cherished
