What Queen Esther Teaches Us About Feminine Energy
How one ancient story still speaks to modern women today
Let’s talk about one of my absolute favorite women in the Bible: Queen Esther.
Now, I’ll be honest — this isn’t going to be a traditional “Bible study” post. I won’t be walking you through chapter and verse. Instead, I want to give you a quick overview of Esther’s story and then unpack the powerful feminine energy she embodied. This is about practical wisdom for everyday life, through the lens of one of the Bible’s most compelling women.
And even if you’re not a “Bible girl,” hang with me. Esther’s story is central in Jewish tradition and holds beautiful life lessons for women of any faith background. It’s short, too — just a few chapters long — so if you’re curious, you can easily Google “Book of Esther PDF” and read the whole thing in one sitting.
A Quick Recap of Esther’s Story
Esther was a Jewish girl living in Persia, and she ended up becoming queen. The king at the time, Xerxes (also known as Ahasuerus), had just banished his former queen, Vashti, for refusing to parade her beauty in front of his drunken guests — aka, objectify herself. That alone is a whole moment of feminine strength, right?
To replace her, the king holds a kingdom-wide “beauty contest,” and Esther is chosen as the new queen. But here’s the catch: no one knows she’s Jewish, and at the time, Jewish people were a persecuted minority.
Esther’s cousin and guardian, Mordecai, instructs her to keep her heritage a secret. Meanwhile, the king’s advisor Haman convinces the king to issue a decree to kill all the Jews — basically because Mordecai refuses to bow to him.
Mordecai urges Esther to act, and she bravely does, after asking all the Jews to fast and pray with her for three days. Then she hosts not one, but two banquets for the king and Haman, softening the king’s heart before finally revealing both her identity and Haman’s plot. The result? Haman is executed, the Jews are saved, and Mordecai is promoted.
Feminine Energy Lessons from Esther
So what does all of this have to do with feminine energy?
Everything.
Esther wasn’t loud or aggressive. She didn’t hold a traditional position of power. But she changed the course of history through her intuition, grace, and quiet strength. Here’s how:
1. Wisdom + Intuition
Feminine energy is deeply rooted in intuition — listening to that inner knowing instead of rushing into action. Esther didn’t burst into the king’s chambers with a dramatic plea. She moved slowly and deliberately, inviting him to dinner, then again, allowing space for strategy and timing. That’s feminine wisdom in action: being present, being patient, and trusting the inner nudge.
2. Feminine Leadership
Esther didn’t have power in the traditional, masculine sense, but she had influence. She used emotional intelligence, beauty, charm, and strategic thinking to connect and lead. Feminine leadership isn’t about domination. It’s about collaboration, nurturing connection, and guiding with heart and purpose.
3. Collaboration Over Control
She didn’t act alone. She leaned on Mordecai, asked her community to fast and pray, and moved with spiritual alignment. Feminine energy knows that strength is multiplied in community. We were never meant to do life alone.
4. Vulnerability as Strength
Approaching the king without permission could’ve meant death. Esther did it anyway, not with arrogance, but with grace and humility. That’s powerful vulnerability — being willing to be seen, to risk rejection, and to advocate for what matters most. Real feminine energy holds boundaries and softness.
5. Faith and Surrender
Esther trusted the divine. She believed there was a purpose for her life bigger than her comfort or safety. That deep surrender is one of the most feminine things we can do — to let go of the need to control every detail and trust that God’s plan is unfolding, even when we can’t see the full picture.
Esther’s story isn’t just ancient history. It’s a blueprint for how modern women can walk with power, softness, discernment, and divine trust. Her story reminds us that we can be both strategic and surrendered. Bold and vulnerable. Humble and brave.
If this resonated with you and you’re ready to step more fully into your own feminine power, especially in love and relationships, I’d love to support you.
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